Looking back over 2010 I can’t really say it was an easy year. The main theme? DEPLOYMENT!
I only started blogging in March so I began looking at old Facebook statuses and I decided to list some of them. I think it gives a good overview of how my year went. I was going to start in 2010, but I found one from last Christmas Eve that was just way too funny; so I’ll start there. I don’t really expect people to read this; it’s more for me to refer back to.
December 24, 2009 So, my mother in law attempted to put on a fancy evening but my boys would have none of it. They wrestled her 6ft nutcracker statue, pretended to get drunk on spring water, ate the jubilee roll before she had even brought the dessert plates to the table and then looked out the window “for Santa” with their pants sagged so low they all had plumber’s butts. DH and I laughed so hard our sides hurt.
January 4, 2010 WARNING TO ALL POTENTIAL GUESTS: do not attempt to visit me without 4wd. Snow chains are preferred but not required if you have a full tank of gas for weight. It’s gonna be a lonely week for me. My driveway is really steep and I am just not a very good snow blower. DH had already begun predeployment training so he wasn’t home to help me.
January 5, 2010 so, I’m realizing just how much is contingent on me NOT screwing up. Sucks, cuz I’m not all that reliable.
January 19, 2010 B will be performing at a benefit concert for Haiti this weekend. His idea, I’m so proud of him. B used to play the viola before I became such a lazy, overworked stress out Mom and pulled him out of lessons.
January 25, 2010 Please be okay, Mom. We love you!!!!!!!!!! My mother was in a bad accident. She was helping a woman who had slid off the road in ice. The car was on it’s side; a van came over the hill, hit the car and it landed on my Mom. She was in the ICU for a long time.
February 5, 2010 things are finally calming down… DH is home for a few weeks before deploying to Iraq, Mom is making an amazing recovery after having a car flip over and land on top of her, I passed my first Nursing Exam and did I mention DH IS HOME! Having help with the boys is something I will never EVER take for granted again.
February 16, 2010 so I’m sitting in the hospital with C. He was admitted last night for asthma. Hospital food rocks! He spent a week in the hospital.
February 20, 2010 is the first person in recent history to successfully break a Kitchen Aid mixer. I could screw up a wet dream.
March 6, 2010 trying to deal… longing for the “good ole days” when I had friends going through the same things… not having anyone to relate to makes things harder.
March 31, 2010 on my way to viola group class, Over an hour of driving for 30 minutes of play time, half of which are spent listening to the teacher lecture the other kids about the importance of practicing and showing up on time.
April 19, 2010 almost 4am and I can’t sleep cuz my mind keeps thinking off all the things I have or will screw up in the near future. Wish I had an off button.
April 20, 2010 is holding it together for the kids but it’s getting harder by the day. Deployment sucks.
April 22, 2010 Picking DH up at the airport in T-8 hours. We are lucky to be getting a few days before he deploys. Saturday we are celebrating a 3 in 1 birthday party for the kids. Saturday is technically Z’s bday but since he’s going to miss the other’s we are doing it all at once. Gotta love military life, celebrating Xmas in May, and birthdays … whenever. It’s a life like none other.
April 24, 2010 Today is our 3 in 1 birthday party for the kids. Technically it’s Z’s bday but since Will will miss the others we are celebrating all the kid’s bdays today. Happy Birthday Boys.
May 2, 2010 sitting on back deck, grilling burgers and eating shrimp cocktail. I am loving this, acting like a NORMAL married couple. Pretending that Iraq is the furthest thing from my mind.
May 3, 2010 What a friggin’ morning. Will wants to get me organized for the deployment. He seriously handed me his Living Will, Advanced Directives and a book on coping with PTSD before my morning coffee! Are you kidding? Geez! The nerve of some people.
May (hidden due to OPSEC), 2010 how do I decide on a suitable way to spend our last night before he goes to war, I mean seriously, the magnitude of this hasn’t yet hit me.
May (hidden due to OPSEC), 2010 talk about making a scene! I couldn’t hold it together at the airport. Then when one of his bags set off security and they had to open it up and go through all the battle armor… yeah, seeing it all made me cry like 4 y/o without Hot Wheels cars. I snotted all over his uniform.
June 3, 2010 IDIOT ALERT: I sent Will a father’s day/bday present. A digital photo frame. Not realizing that he can’t plug it in cuz it has an AMERICAN cord. Great. Completely wasted.
June 8, 2010 My good deed of the day: generously gave my blood to a shaky-handed phlebotomy student. That’s gonna leave a mark!
June 12, 2010 Gotta keep looking at the bright side. Approximately 10% of this deployment DONE! The only thing that has fallen apart thus far that I can’t fix is a cabinet door. No problem, easy access!
June 19, 2010 Bulk trash day on Monday, making my backyard look a little less like something Jeff Foxworthy would use in a joke.
June 24, 2010 since I am a devout “keeping up with the Jones'” type, maybe I should have moved to a town that would have made that a bit easier….. a trailer park maybe. The kids friends all have inground pools and my boys have a 3 foot kiddie pool, talk about feeling inadequate
June 25, 2010 attempted to drink tonight, but only got down one Mike’s Lemonade before cracking open a Diet Coke to chug. Apparently I’m a crappy alcoholic.
June 29, 2010 our mousetrap just caught a Lindsey. swollen index finger makes typing difficult, and I have clinical tomorrow, let’s just hope I don’t have to perform any digital disimpactions. hahaha
July 7, 2010 my patient was a former nurse, as was her daughter who was visiting. Talk about intimidation. I had to be on my A game!
July 17, 2010 dinner with the mother-in-law. We survived. And that’s all I have to say about that.
July 25, 2010 Happy Birthday, Dad! I miss you and love you. It’s hard to believe it’s been 17 years. You’ll never be forgotten. My Dad died of Leukemia when I was 14; we had no warning. By the time we were notified he was already in a coma. I miss him a lot.
August 5, 2010 deployment SUCKS, I want him home
August 12, 2010 clothesline snapped…. with a full 3 loads of laundry on it. GREAT! And I just mowed. Grass clippings on everything. Have to rewash. Just might go insane by day’s end.
August 15, 2010 Just spent an hour in the truck listening to my sons tell Yo Momma jokes.
August 18, 2010 note to self: choose wisely for Family Movie Night. Any movies with Dads giving up demanding careers to spend more time with kids + deployment = really sad kids. Watched Old Dogs tonight and 2 out of 3 kids wound up in tears. Spent the next half hour talking about how much they missed their Dad and want him to come home. It said it was a comedy, I thought it was a good choice. Another Parenthood Fail.
September 3, 2010 I’ve hosted sleepover parties before, but I’ve never allowed my boys to ATTEND a sleepover! BIG step in the whole Parenting Adventure.
September 5, 2010 cleaned out the fridge and found 2 dozen eggs underneath the shredded cheese!!!!! For a grand total of 4 dozen eggs set to expire in a little over 2 weeks. Not to mention I have a lot less cheese than I thought I did. Anyone know of any good recipes that call for a lot eggs???
September 6, 2010 off to throw away the laundry I don’t feel like washing…. shhhhhh, don’t tell DH. This was BEFORE he got his own Facebook account.
September 17, 2010 Seriously embarrassing moment today. Fell out of my chair during post-conference. And it wasn’t like I was sitting down and MISSED the chair, no. I had been sitting there for 10 minutes, writing…. and then fell. We’re talking, chair went flying, I hit the ground, grabbed onto teacher (who happened to be sitting next to me), yeah, bad. See, I never grew out of the awkward phase.
September 19, 2010 Stuck on the phone with the Monster In Law…. I’m getting lectured on how bad of a mother I am. Seriously, I’m getting tired of the lectures which are made 10 times worse after she’s consumed multiple boxes of wine.
October 3, 2010 I’ve blown the spider gears in a Dodge Van, the transmission in a Caddy and now the brake lines on a Tahoe. Oh by the way, does anyone have a vehicle I could borrow for a couple days?
October 7, 2010 Dear 8th Grade Bully, please leave my son alone; you are meaner and more hurtful than you realize.
October 23, 2010 you know you live in a rural area when your kids get lost in the woods while herding the pigs back to the pen.
October 25, 2010 just realized why the van is so much more comfortable to drive than the ‘Burb. The seatbelt doesn’t lie across my neck choking me like in the truck. Blood flow to the brain makes for optimal comfort
October 31, 2010 driving down 84 with the boys waving a bloody, severed arm at the cars passing by. 75% of them laugh and wave back. the other 25% have a new disgust for Virginia drivers It was a Halloween decoration and we were in CT driving a ‘Burb with VA license plates.
November 4, 2010 got the birthday boy an xbox kinect. holy moly is this thing cool. wayyyyy better than wii or that ps3 motion thing.
November 8, 2010 Bought a pork roast for dinner tonight. The label said Roast Pork Butt. While they ate, they made sound effects and discussed who’s butt busted the worst grumpy. Now comes the jokes regarding “eating butt”; oh how I love being the mom of boys.
November 18, 2010 When will my mother in law stop being so mean to me? I’m sick of trying to prove my worthiness. Anyone know of any good M.I.L trade in programs? I’m looking for an upgrade.
November 22, 2010 Grandma calls to talk to the kids, I give them the phone and go back to running the mixer making cookies. I turn off the mixer and I hear the boys making FARTING sounds with Grandma on speaker saying “HELLOOOOO, HELLOOOOO”. Man, I’ve gotta watch these kids, I am gonna hear about this one. She was NOT happy.
November 23, 2010 I have had a very productive day; I surprised myself by making the best darn chicken salad this side of the Mason-Dixie, I finished all my grocery shopping, did 5 loads of laundry (clean sheets, mmmmm), learned to speak a few lines in Arabic and read a chapter and a half of Med/Surg. My pillow is calling already.
December 8, 2010 furnace is down AGAIN! currently 53 degrees in the house. thank goodness for space heaters and electric blankets
December 14, 2010 That was one of the hardest exams so far. No amount of studying was going to make me prepared for that test. And now to sit it out and wait for the results, fingernail biting begins NOW!!!
December 17, 2010 can’t wait to be a real life wife as opposed to his Skype Wife. Not too much longer now. I guess it’s time to get used to remembering to heat up his side of the electric blanket at night not just my own.
December (hidden due to OPSEC), 2010 On my way to airport!
December (hidden due to OPSEC), 2010 How long have I been talking about the furnace turning itself off??? Approx 3 weeks. Will just found a busted pipe in the garage, I’ve been pumping water through the garage and outside for 3 weeks. That’s why the furnace shuts off periodically. Welcome Home and Merry Christmas, Will, now fix my pipes!
December 25, 2010 Went to bed just before 5am, right back up at 7am. Two out of three kids claim this is the “best Christmas EVER”; and two out of three isn’t bad. I’d call this a successful Christmas!
December 29, 2010 don’t remember the last time I laughed this hard. Best late Thanksgiving dinner ever. Now it’s time to clean up, I’m outta here, it’s Will’s turn to do dishes.
December 31, 2010 in 16 years together we have either been separated courtesy of the US government or too tired as new parents to celebrate New Years more than a couple times. I need ideas to make this one special.
Wow, that was longer than I expected. Reviewing my year in Facebook I learned something. I learned that I am a lot more honest here on my blog where I have some anonymity. I made jokes about a lot of the rougher times throughout the year; yet the blog posts that coincide with the status is much more truthful. I suppose that is because MilWives typically put up a facade during deployments. We try not to let people know that we struggle and aren’t always happy. I let it out sometimes, but not nearly as much as I felt it. I suppose I just don’t want to look like I’m whining. Anyway, here’s hoping that 2011 brings happier, less stressful, non-deployment times for us. HAPPY NEW YEAR!